Lecture #1

     When I signed up for this course, I had expected to discuss erotic and romantic love as the title of the course is "Love and Desire".  Therefore, it had never really occurred to me and I did not expect to discuss the topic of friendship and how it ties into love.  When you think about it in depth, friendship is a type of love that is just as important as erotic and romantic love, even though it is less touched upon.  I'm sorry, I do not remember the lecturer's name, but the professor who gave us her opinions on love and friendship mentioned that Aristotle said that "friendship is most important to life".  This particular quote stuck out to me because it ties into some of the material that we have discussed in class.  The very first class we had in the beginning in September, we watched an episode of Sex and the City.  Sex and the City was a popular show in the late 1990's and early 2000's.  The show follows four adult women who live in New York City, and it shows how they del with love, sex and friendship.  While sex and love play a big role in that show, it is really friendship that makes that show so popular among young women.  Friendship is just as important if not more important for humans to have than romantic love.  When girls break up with their boyfriend that they were in love with and they're heartbroken, it is always their friends that they turn to.  The love of friendship tends to be more genuine and stabile because unlike romantic and sexual love, it does not take physical attraction into account; it's based on personality more than anything.  Another thing that the lecturer said was that "when we name an enemy, we name something like us."  This reminded me of young women once again.  Most of the time, when young women do not like someone, it is often because they are similar and people do not want to be friends with someone who is too similar to them.  Ultimately, I thought that this lecture was very interesting and different.  The topic is a unique angle, that does relate to this course in many ways.